The Perfect Marriage

On Wednesday at our appointment our therapist asked me what I wanted our marriage to be like, a.k.a my version of the perfect marriage. Now I admit I'm a sucker for the sappy girly fairy tale romance movies but I've realized that they aren't real or even worth wishing for. I've done a lot of thinking about what my perfect marriage with R would look like and here's what I've come up with so far.

• Fun time spent with each other several times per week- I would love to be able to have a couple hours here and there through out the week where we could just be together doing something we both enjoy. Whether it be cooking dinner together and then sitting down to the meal, watching a show on TV cuddled on the couch, or just holding each other and talking in bed. This wouldn't be spent talking about work or anything other than our relationship and our happiness about being with the other person, a time for compliments, love, and just celebrating togetherness time.
• Physical touch and romantic gestures- Through out the week we get busy and sometimes forget about the other person but I would love to have kisses and hugs on a regular basis, at unexpected times, touches from him that are just random and loving, love making sessions that are just passionate and unplanned. I don't think it's too hard to work this in to even the busiest of lives. This has gotten really planned out, kiss before going to work, kiss before going to bed and it's to the point now where I feel like it's obligation. He doesn't even come in and kiss me before he leaves anymore, mainly due to the fact that he's pissed off at me most of the time.

Those are just two that I have right now because I have reading for my classes that's looming over my head. We're going away for over night and I want to have the majority of my school work done so that I can enjoy our short trip, not to mention I still need to pack. I'll be revisiting this later on and adding to my initial thoughts.