It's Been a Long Week
I was so looking forward to the little one I babysit for to arrive after 9am tomorrow rather than at normal time which is around 7:15am. S has been telling me for 2 days that her husband doesn't have to be to work until 11am tomorrow so the baby will be coming later than normal. It's been a long week and I was so looking forward to that time to run and do other things, but that's not going to happen. M (the dad) called and said that he has things to do at work and S has a meeting early so they'll actually be dropping him off earlier than normal, before 7am, ugg. Tonight she was supposed to be here around 5:30 and didn't show up until after 6:30, with no explanation. I can't complain too much because they paid me for a full week last week when I just watched him 2 days but I also watched him late one of those days and then one other evening so it wasn't like I didn't begin making up for that pay. I've been documenting every day what time he arrives and then what time he gets picked up. I'm going to ask them to begin giving me a schedule a week in advance because I have appointments and things that I have to get done. I almost made plans for tomorrow morning because there's an errand that I have to do tomorrow and I thought it would be nice if I could get it done early.
This leads to one of my biggest personality flaws. I let people walk all over me and don't stand up for myself in certain situations. I definitely can complain to anyone who will listen and deep down I know what I'd like to say to people but I just stay quiet and let my anger or resentment build up inside and make myself miserable. I think part of my problem is that I'm just not quick on my feet. Like tonight I should have said "oh, S said you weren't dropping him off until after 9am tomorrow so I made plans," but no, instead I just say "okay" in an eager voice and then stew and complain to anyone who will listen. Why do I have a problem sticking up for myself and saying what I feel? Does anyone else do that or have any advice for those of us who let people walk all over them?
1 comment:
I have no advice because unfortunately I'm the exact same way. I always tell myself that I'll start saying things when they need to be said but then I just never do it. I guess I'm afraid of confrontation or something... I'd rather just keep the peace and keep my mouth shut, even if it means letting things fester inside. That' probably not healthy though!
Anyways - maybe next time they come late you can just ask if they can call you if they know they won't be there at the normal time - then maybe they'll get the hint?
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