Tips for Your Marriage

So finally I am getting around to posting the tips that Ia.n Kern.er the sex therapist wrote about in the article I referenced a couple days ago. If you are finding it hard to manage marriage and children here are some helpful tips for your marriage. We personally found them very relevant and helpful!

1. Touch more- Holding hands, stealing kisses, spooning-- non sexual physical closeness is crucial to healthy relationships. These quickies hookups, says Kerner, "help establish a connection inside the bedroom."
2. Be Spontaneous- Don't plan ahead when you have an evening alone together-- just see where the night takes you. "Dopamine, the neurotransmitter that plays a role in the brain's pleasure center, thrives on unpredictability," he says.
3. Clean House- Studies show that for a woman to enjoy sex, the anxious side of her brain needs to deactivate. So Kerner tells me to do more household chores: "Turning her on is about helping her turn it all off." This one is so true in my case!!!!!
4. Just Do It- "Sex is its own aphrodisiac," says Kerner. It other words, you have to have more sex to want more sex. And try not to give in to the "I'm too tired" excuse. "Sex actually energizes," he explains.

So believe it or not these simple things actually help immensely if you are finding your marriage to be a little rocky. I plan to keep all these tips in mind when our new baby arrives because it's such a stressful time that marriage can be put on the back burner and it affects daily life immensely!