Washer and Dryer and Advice
So R and I went to Home De.pot tonight and made our very first purchase for the new house, you guessed it, a washer and dryer. We got an incredible deal on it because there was a sale going on and the G.E. had a wonderful rebate. I am so excited that we are proud owners of two appliances. They are going to be delivered on November 2nd. R is taking that day off from work to get everything in order. The carpets are being deep cleaned on November 7th and then the big move is on the 10th.
So now that I've explained the washer and dryer you are probably wondering what advice I need from reading my title. It's actually not me who needs advice. I don't think that I've mentioned on here about a weird thing that happened about 1 month ago. I have AOL IM and one day an old guy I dated happen to IM me by mistake. He was trying to talk with his mom and hit my screen name instead. We hadn't talked in over 4 years because I kinda got sick of waiting around for him and I started dating R. So this guy was the last guy I dated before R. What was weird about him accidentally IMing me though was that I had just thought about him a couple days prior because my son had found a stuffed animal that he had given to me, Stitch from the movie Lilo and Stitch, mind you my son fell in love with it. So we chatted for awhile and kinda caught up.
We definitely weren't serious when we dated by any means so it's not like there was a huge history. B was younger than me by 3 years and he was a 6'8" guy, so we didn't have a great deal in common, yet we hit it off. We have chatted now and then since we reconnected. Today I received an IM from him (I was away and got it like 4 hours after the fact) where he wanted to ask my advice about something when I had time. I thought the request was odd and I'm just so curious what kind of advice he wants from me? The one great thing about B was that he was always happy and people flocked to him. He knew everyone and had an infectious personality. You couldn't help but feel happy when you were around him. He was incredibly sweet and kind. I actually want to pose a question to all of one person who reads my blog (you know I love you Chas!!!!) Can someone be friends with an ex boyfriend and have no "feelings" for them? I feel that way with him. He's the type of person that would be an awesome friend to have because he's just so happy and optimistic, but people in general seem to think bad of you if you are friends with someone you dated at one time or another through out your life.
Well just some food for thought and if there are more people who read my blog other than Chas I would love to hear from you on this question I posed.
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Am I the only one?? I need to muster you up some readers!
About the advice, I doubt you'll like what I have to say. I am sure it is POSSIBLE to be friends with someone after you've dated, but I don't think it is very PROBABLE that nothing will ever come of it. I think eventually, if everyone is completely honest with themselves, someone will let old feelings work their way back into their minds. Thoughts of "what could have been" will start creeping into your thoughts (or his), and if you hit a rough spot with the husband you might start looking at this old boyfriend differently. I think it's probably not the smartest thing to do for your marriage. I am not saying that exes cannot say hello once in a while and be friendly with one another....I even attended my high school sweetheart's wedding a few years ago, but I think regularly corresponding, giving each other advice, and talking about your personal lives could be dangerous. I think in situations like this you have to ask yourself "Would I care if my husband found out?" ...if you haven't told him then you probably need to ask yourself why. I know that Jason trusts me with all his heart, but I also know he wouldn't want me in close contact w/ my exes.
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