Marriage Counseling

So R and I are starting marriage counseling tonight. We are approaching a very stressful time in our life because his second job is done, which means our second income is done, the baby will be here before we know it, and he's still learning the ropes and rules of his new job which can present obstacles and frustrations. I'm really, really excited to go tonight because I feel that we need a mediator for our discussions. I'm ready to learn new communication tools and ways to make our marriage more enjoyable. We are totally fine when the stress is low and we are just living and enjoying each other, but as soon as times get a big rough we start fighting and are unable to communicate effectively.

I have been suggesting counseling for quite a long time just because we've had so many life changing events and sometimes it's very hard to deal with on our own. He was resistant a year ago, said okay, but came up with many excuses about 6 months ago, and finally on Tuesday asked me to find someone because he knew this couldn't go on any longer. Within an hour I had a therapist, a babysitter, and everything all figured out, I just needed him to say the word. It's hard to communicate with R during stressful times because we both can get heated and defensive so I'm hoping I will be able to share all my feelings with him effectively if we are in front of a neutral party. He barely communicates with me (I think it's the guy stereotype, that guys don't need to talk about their feelings) so I'm hoping that he won't be able to dodge communication in the presence of a third party.

As you can see I am very optimistic about our new marital journey we are taking. I'm not afraid to admit that we need help. I think people give up way to easy these days, the divorce rate proves that, which I'm not interested in adding to that statistic. I deeply love R as a person and I'm very excited to spend a hour each week learning with my husband and putting in the effort for us and our family. On to more exciting news.....tomorrow is the day!!!!! We will know if we will be adding a daughter or son to our family. I'll blog tomorrow about how tonight goes and then how our ultrasound and appt. goes tomorrow.