The Morning and an Update

I awoke this morning to "sh$t" which was my husband who apparently forgot to set his alarm clock. The weird thing was that I had a dream/thought (not sure if I was awake or not) that he overslept this morning. We immediately popped out of bed and I went to work getting him ready to go because hell I know what it feels like to oversleep when you have to be somewhere and I wanted to make his morning go as smooth as possible since it started off badly. I quickly got all his clothes ready (pants, shirt, belt, socks, boxers, undershirt, and shoes, I think I remembered it all, then went to make coffee. After starting the coffee I rushed to make his lunch and get his breakfast around, while in between gathered his sunglasses, cell phone, keys, nose spray, and flash drive. By the time he was ready to go his breakfast, lunch, and coffee were waiting for him in the car and the garage door was up. He was especially thankful and I was so happy that I was able to help and not having to rush around myself to go somewhere. Yet one more perk about being at stay at home mom. There is construction going on so his commute is taking over an hour so I think he'll still probably be a little late but at least it wasn't worse.

I'm not sure if I have mentioned my sleep predicament that I've been having lately or not but I think I finally fixed my problem. Everyday I've been so tired at Little man's nap time that I will take a nap at the same time, usually sleeping 1-2 hours. This led to me being wired at night and not getting to sleep until after 11pm (way too late for me!) Little man would then wake up early (6-6:30am ish) and I would be still so tired. It was a vicious cycle and I had days where I didn't take a nap and I slept so much better during the night. I knew I had to eliminate my mid afternoon naps! The problem is that I can't sit down/relax during Little man's nap time or I would fall asleep. I decided to start a list of all the things that I need/want to get done before the baby arrives. During nap time I would tackle one or two things so that I would keep busy and awake. Yesterday I worked on my cousin's wedding present (it's so late but at least I have the preggo/was in school excuse). I got that about 1/2 way done and hope to finish it this week. Today I'm going to line the changing table drawers with shelf paper and then start putting away the baby clothes I already washed along with washing the ones that still need to be washed.

R has been great about doing tons of projects this week when he's gotten home from work!!! Monday he mowed the lawn and worked outside, Tuesday he put in a new coax jack for our cable that we're going to turn back on soon along with carried up the bassinet so I could put that together, and last night he went to Ho.me Dep.ot and got a few things. When he got home he dug three huge holes to replant daylilies along the side of our house. We had them growing out of control in one area so we decided to remove them and replant them other places. The problem is that our soil is clay so he had to use a shovel and a pick to get the holes dug. He also cut out some tree roots that were approaching our foundation. Tonight he wants to make me dinner for helping him this morning but I think I'll just tell him that I want him to get all the hardware off the crib so I can send it all in the recall packet tomorrow. Once we send that it in we'll get the voucher for a new crib at Babi.es R U.s within 1-2 weeks.

I just wanted to give everyone an update on our marriage. We haven't been to counseling in over a month because our babysitter canceled at the end of June. I called to try to reschedule that first week in July and our counselor was on vacation the whole week. The weeks following we were going to be out of town or the babysitter was going to be out of town. The summer has been crazy and we can only attend on Mondays or Thursdays. Literally for the past four weeks neither day has worked and I have been unable to reschedule.

In spite of not going to counseling we have been doing things and handling issues as they arise on our own. One thing that really helped was we both did the Meye.r Bri.ggs personality test (this wasn't a planned marriage exercise but mainly just something for fun) and it's helped both of us learn so much about the other person. I think all engaged/married couples should do this. Turns out R is an "architect" and I'm a "provider." We now understand each other better and realize that our personalities lend themselves to certain behavior and we now can appreciate each other while keeping those qualities in mind, rather than looking at those behaviors as negative. We also have been communicating very well and we've also had brief rough patches here and there, but unlike before we've been able to get through them very quickly by talking and listening to each other. I read an interesting article the other day that stated that over 70% of marriages start having problems within 3 years after having children. I shared this statistic with R and he mentioned he's heard the same stat several times. The article went on to suggest some things that couples can do to help their marriage. I shared them with R and then all make perfect sense. I'll do another post highlighting the points. I truly believe that a lack of intimacy and sex has a huge impact on marriage, at least it has for us. We've been making more on an effort to focus on physical touch and the time we spend with just the two of us and it really has made such a difference.

So I will be on again to post about those helpful hints to help marriages after children and I've been looking for a belly picture to share. R still has to download our pictures from our camera, we are WAY behind. I'm asking for a new digital camera for Christmas so I can start taking my own pics and downloading them myself.