Weekend Away

I took R and Little man to meet R's sister and her husband tonight after work. I got a job in a first grade classroom today at the elementary school that I cancelled at on Thursday, it went fine and they were super nice so hopefully I didn't ruin my reputation there. I just got off the phone with one of my best friend's that I've known her whole life (she's two years younger than me so I've known her ever since she was born :) She moved down to FL and live with R and I for several months until she got on her feet and she's doing great and has made a great life for herself down there. I can tell her everything that's going on and not have to sugar coat or sensor the details. It was so nice to talk to her and here about what's going on in her life and have her listen to what we're going through. We chatted for almost three hours and I feel so much better. I'm a friends person, love talking on the phone and keeping in close contact with them, yet with being so busy sometimes sadly they get pushed aside. I should have listened to her though, she was the only one that told us we were crazy to move back to MI and boy was she ever right!

I'm really hoping that this weekend away will be good for R and just give me a break. I just have Baby M so I'll be able to have a lighter responsibility load this weekend which given the events of this week is much needed. We got the car back today and it ended up costing $667.65. R's parent's covered it which was awesome but I really hate at our age that we have to have help from our parents. My parents called and told me that they are bringing my mom's car down to me so that we have another vehicle to use because my dad finally got a new car. They aren't giving me the same one back because it's been giving the problems so they want to keep it close to home in case it acts up again. I can't thank them enough, but again, it's very hard to be grown in this situation and have to take hand outs from people.

One thing that's been bothering me is that I feel like I have to stick up for R to other people. My parent's think that he needs an interview coach because he keeps getting turned down for jobs. He's landed several jobs just fine but apparently now they think that he needs help interviewing. Maybe he does but I feel like I'm constantly having to stick up for my husband and that's not a fun place to be. I guess my cousin thinks that some of R's questions he told her he was going to ask during the Chica.go interview weren't good questions to ask, and apparently she told him she didn't think that he should ask them, which I have no idea if he did or not, so that led to their conclusion about the interview coach. The question that she didn't think was good was "Would you pay for my membership to ____ and _____ professional organizations if I got this job?" Apparently they are tight wads and don't provide pens to their employees without a bunch of red tape, but seriously would one simple question lead them not to hire R and go for the woman who had 12 years experience. I mean come on, seriously, was that the deal breaker. Are we in a day and age where people can't even ask information questions to possible future employers without fear that they won't get hired? I bolded and italicized woman because they are the minority in his line of work and he tends to get passed over for jobs and they end up hiring a woman.

I guess we are at the point where we just have to do whatever people tell us to do because then at least we can show them that we are taking advice and we can all experience together whether or not the advice pans out. I just feel like people who aren't in the situation and have no idea what it's like to be here have a hard time telling people who are in the situation what to do. However, I think that may be the answer, just do everything people tell us to do because apparently we are sucking at figuring it out so maybe our elders have a better grasp on reality and what we should be doing. It's really hard being in this situation though because I don't want to be in the position to tell my husband what he should and shouldn't be doing and I don't really want my parent's telling him what to do because I don't think that would feel good. Up until now I've tried to suggest things and not make it seem like I'm being the mother and telling him what to do, but I guess not that the end of the school year is right around the corner I need to be more persistent and forceful.

I have so much on my mind right now and my brain is just so tired of it all, I'm going to bed so at least I can get 6-8 hours of time where I can just forget all this is happening and recharge my body and mind. Sleep is by far the best thing I have going in my life right now, but getting to sleep is sometimes very challenging.