WHOA
I don't even know where to begin. My mom confronted me today with the fact that she thinks R has narcissisti.c personal.ity disorder and my day ended with my husband agreeing about that and asking for help. I don't even recognize my life anymore, what the hell happened to me? I feel like I'm stuck in one of those dreams where you are trying desperately to wake up and can't. My mom also went off on me for R spending money on things like gas to places that are unnecessary, beer (before the incident), etc.... Also, telling me that there's a reason why none of my extended family has invited him to be friends on Fac.ebook. So yeah, total bashing R night and I'm stuck in the middle trying to figure out whether to scream and defend or just sit quietly. R is so desperate for help that he started crying and asking me what he should do. I told him to call my parent's because they seem to know what to do and what his problems are. He talked to them for awhile, e-mailed him mom asking for money for therapy and then e-mailed his sister apologizing for an argument that they got in earlier. He's as low as possible right now and I don't know what to say/do/feel/etc... Why does life have to be this hard? Right now I'm jealous of the people that have great lives and never have any problems (maybe they aren't real, but there are people out there that seem to have everything always work out for them) I'm hoping to wake up from this nightmare soon!
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God I'm so sorry all this is happening. You may think that it seems that you are the only ones without a great life, but I am always amazed when I hear about yet another family/couple who have money/marital/personal problems. You really never know what goes on in other lives, behind closed doors. My life certainly ain't perfect!
I read (I think in c jane enjoy it's blog) that someone had told her that "in everyone's lives there is tragedy" and I remember thinking that was so true. Unfortunately it seems your time is now. BUT you have 2 lovely boys and a supportive family and you will get through this.
I have everything crossed for you and am sending really positive vibes your way.
Thank you so much Charlie!!!!!!
I too find myself being jealous of people with "perfect lives", but I think what Charlie said is SO TRUE. You never know what is going on behind closed doors. Take my brother in law for example. He has an amazing job, makes tons of money, lives in Boston in a sweet apartment, and then a month ago finds out his wife of 3 years cheated on him and now they're getting a divorce. Shit happens to everyone - but I guess just at different levels.
My mother-in-law is actually really a book right now called "The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in Work, Love, and Family". She says it is amazing, and is reading it to help my nieces (her granddaughters) cope with their father and step-mom. It's on Amazon right now for $15 - if you guys can buy it I think it might really be worthwhile!
Also, I'm glad R is going to therapy. It takes a lot for a man to admit he needs help. He will be so much better off for doing this. One day, things will be back to normal for you guys. Just stay patient. ((((hugs)))
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